WARNING: THIS IS A RAGE POST. Hence the no-nonsense title.
I’m quite frustrated and I’m getting all my thoughts out here so that I don’t have to keep them in my head anymore. In my last post about Carousell, I mentioned I had a bad trade experience. I was ready to just forget about it then, but the guy sent a message five days later and I got pissed. Here’s the whole conversation I had with him.
Everything up to here was going well, even though I felt he wasn’t being fully communicative. You can see that his messages were generally shorter and more abrupt than mine were and he was a little unresponsive and unfriendly. I felt like I was catering more to him than he was to me, but at the time I thought that was the way it should work; since he’s the customer, I should be serving him. It didn’t help that wasn’t using full sentences and spelling out all his words, but that didn’t annoy me then quite as much as it did later.
Now, the problems begin.
Again with the SMS lingo, incomplete sentences and no follow up solution. This should have been a red flag for me; he wasn’t as interested in the deal as I was. But I wanted to sell me cards, so I worked harder. Lesson here is I should show as much interest as the other party. If he’s not going to put in effort, then I shouldn’t either.
At this point I should have taken the mail trade and be done with it.
My day was quite flexible, so I didn’t mind wandering about for a while. Wanted too go check out the churro place at Somerset anyway, but when I got there at 8pm, the queue was so long I didn’t think I’d have time to wait. Didn’t matter much; at least I’d found the place.
Look at the timings and content of my messages. I was courteous enough to inform him of my status, but he didn’t seem to bother at all.
Now I was well and truly pissed. I wanted to shoot him down right there and then. His tardiness and his inconsideration for not informing me promptly at 9pm that he wasn’t gonna be able to make it. I mean, even if you’re in a meeting you could always just step out for a toilet break.
He gave me just a shallow apology and an excuse. No follow up solution to this problem, no alternative meeting time, no decision to tell me to go home. If there’s one thing I hate, it’s being left hanging with no information at all.
I waited til 9.31pm before leaving and sending him that last message for mail trade. Stayed at Jurong East station for half a freaking hour. Got to Bedok station at about 10.30, so I overstayed and was fined an extra $2.
Then look at the date next, I waited more than 24 hours before declining his offer. I didn’t want to have anything to do with him anymore.
And then FIVE DAYS after I declined the deal he messages me.
No apology for responding late and assumes I’d just hold the cards for him.
Here, I was still being civil and controlled myself from lashing out. I thought was perfectly reasonable giving him 24 hours to respond before I removed the pending status of the cards he ordered.
But that last message pushed me over the edge because he was implying that I was being unreasonable. Now I unleash all my fury that I’ve been biding all this while. No regrets, no remorse, no mercy.
And he still wants to play. Either he’s incredibly stupid or… wait yeah he’s incredibly stupid.
He said he doesn’t just wait for me? HAH, he expected me to hold the cards ordered for him AND go through with the deal. I should have thrown that in his face as well, but I already had enough ammunition.
There’s a quote that goes “Never argue with an idiot; he’ll drag you down to his level and beat you with experience”. That briefly flashed through my mind before I responded, but I really wanted to vent my anger, burn him with all the power of the English language I could muster and besides, it makes a good story.
If I wasn’t sarcastic, rude and dropping sweet burns before, I am now. I unleashed everything I had.
When I got home on Friday, I logged on to DBS with the intention to refund what he gave me. Then I realized I didn’t have his bank details and thus couldn’t transfer the money back to him. I immediately sent him a message requesting for his bank details.
At the time of this writing (one day before this post is released), he still hasn’t replied with his bank details, so I still can’t refund his money. If he doesn’t bother, then I won’t either. Yay free cash.